GBV: I tell my daughters to slap their husbands back if they slap them – Emir Sanusi

The 16th Emir of Kano, Muhammad Sanusi II, says he always tells his daughters when they are getting married that if their husbands slap them, he expects them to return the slap.

The emir said wife be@ting, domestic v!olence form 45 per cent of cases across nine Shari’a Courts of Kano in five years.

He made this known at the National Dialogue Conference on Gender-Based Violence (GBV) prevention from an Islamic perspective. Speaking at the conference, the monarch said

“You can take that verse and say that as a husband, I’ve been given this permission to be@t my wife light. And nobody will deny that, nobody will say it is haram if you comply with all the rules. But if you live in a society in which those rules are never applied, nobody who is angry remembers to look for a chewing stick or a handkerchief.

They just sl@p these women and punch them and kick them and be@t them. I just wrote a doctorate thesis on family law, and I did research on nine courts, nine Shari’a courts in Kano. 41% of the cases over a five-year period had to do with maintenance. 26 per cent had to do with h@rm. And out of those, 45 per cent were cases of wife be@ting, domestic v!olence. And when we go to the content analysis, not one case of wife beating was light beating.

We had women whose limbs were broken. We had women whose teeth were knocked out. We had women who were victims of constant be@ting with sticks. We had women where the husband and his other wives be@t one of the wives. We’ve had cases of Cardis having to send her sons to trial for criminal ass@ult because of the nature of the beating against their wives. This is the common beating that happens.

Beating your wife or beating your daughter or beating a woman is prohibited. It is a crime. Let’s not even talk about handkerchief or chewing stick. It is just haram. It is prohibited. Allah says, All harm must be removed. And beating, gender-based violence is harm. And it must be removed.

It just does not make sense. Now I said it before, and I know I’ve been attacked for it, and I’ll continue saying it. When my daughters are getting married, I say to them, if your husband slaps you, and you come home and tell me my husband slapped me, without slapping him back first, I will sl@p you myself because I did not send my daughter to marry somebody so he can slap her. If you do not like her, send her back to me. But don’t be@t her.

And we must teach our daughters not to take it. And also teach our sons that it is not allowed to happen. It is not acceptable. It cannot happen. We have to bring up our children to understand that violence against the body of another human being, whether it’s your brother, or your sister, or your son, or your daughter, or your wife, that v!olence against persons violates the basic dignity of a human being.”he said