Don?t go in thinking you are the special one to save the husband from a bad first wife – Marriage therapist advises prospective second wives

A Nigerian marriage therapist, Shamsseddin Giwa, has said that many second wives are usually shocked when they realise that the first wives are not the problem.

“The shock for many second wives begins when they get in and realise that contrary to what they expected or were told, the first wife is not a problem and she is even a positive force to be reckoned with in the marriage,” he wrote in a Facebook post on Thursday. 

 

“Inferiority complex triggers insecurity and now they feel it’s a competition

 

“Go into polygyny if you desire but don’t go in thinking you are the special one to save the husband from a bad first wife. Husband is fine and knows what he’s doing.”