Exiled writer Kakwenza Rukirabashaija is being accused of acting inappropriately towards women. So much so that, in the public eye, he has gone from victim to villain in the never-ending story of Uganda’s unending woes.
Dr. Stella Nyanzi, a friend and fellow traveller of Kakwenza’s, was the first to fire shots in the general direction of the lanky, grandiloquent writer.
“A married friend of mine does not wear condoms when he has sex with women who are not his wife, although I often nag him about the consequences of this lifestyle. This is not fiction,” wrote Nyanzi.
“After making pregnant these women who are not his wife, this friend of mine neglects the baby-carriers and ghosts them. When they ask for his time, care and emotional support, he gas lights them and calls them confused. He quickly progresses to block all communication lines with them. This is not fiction,” he added.
Then Anne Whitehead, previously known for shaping up Bobi Wine’s image, weighed in by calling out Kakwenza for what she described as misogynistic behavior which has debauched his reputation as a human rights activist.
If the allegations against Kakwenza are true, he joins a growing list of human rights defenders who have used their celebrity to muscle in on their locker room masculinity.
Indeed, it is clear that those who publicly defend the rights of others are privately involved in the violation of the very human dignity that they profess to adore.
Here are a few notable leaders whose excellent reputations as human rights activists do not square with their sexual appetites and their apparent disregard for women.
Mandela is known by the world as an irreproachable human rights defender, a man of towering moral standing.
However, before Mandela married Winnie Madikizela, he was married to Evelyn Mase, a cousin of his political mentor Walter Sisulu.
Together they had four children.
The death of their second child, aged nine months, drove a wedge between the two of them.
Mandela then started cheating on her, sometimes reportedly bringing women to their marital home while she was there.
He later reportedly abandoned Evelyn and their children.
When Mandela was released from jail in 1990, he was compared to Jesus Christ, and Evelyn was not please at all.
“How can a man who has committed adultery and left his wife and children be Christ? The world worships Nelson too much. He is only a man,” shMandela
Martin Luther King Jr
King’s legacy in helping to bring civil rights to America is incontestable. However, as a man, his promiscuity was legendary.
The American historian David Garrow called out the iconic civil rights on his alleged sexual misconduct, ranging from numerous extramarital affairs and bedding down with prostitutes to the allegation that he was present during the violent rape of a Maryland churchgoer.
Garrow states that King was “the Harvey Weinstein of the civil rights movement”.
The characters of Kakwenza, King and Mandela prove that an activist’s sterling public persona is often divorced from a private life which validates the saying: Great man, great weaknesses.