Very toxic woman indeed? Has she ever studied the psychology of raising a child, does she know the age bracket active grooming of a child is done, does she know the age of independence? How can you be so ignorant and ill informed and still want to dictate and monitor a son that his IQ may be well above yours? If you don’t know Ma’am, at age 16, your work of tendering the child is done, the only thing you do is nurture, advice, guide, correct in love, counsel and not snooping around his phone, if you trained a well balanced son already, sit back and watch, he will do you proud, if you raised a monster, time for moulding is over at 16. The only trouble you re looking for at the moment, if you push the boy harder, he will abandon you at your old age. Better keep his life private, counsel and advise and pray to God to guide him right and protect him always and you will win yourself a son…reduce your toxicity and entitlements to rights you don’t have abeg.